Permission To Do Nothing.

Stop looking at the neighbor’s house.

I got a call the other day from a lady I initially talked to about 2 years ago when she had just moved into her new home and needed some window coverings. I went to see her, did some designs on a photograph of her window, found some great fabric and after several visits, we decided she wasn’t ready to make up her mind.

Two years later she tells me she still can’t decide what she wants on the windows but thinks she should do something and so I asked her, again, why she thought she had to put anything on the windows at all. Privacy is not an issue. 

She told me she frequently sees really nice drapes in other homes and keeps thinking she should put something on her windows.

Key word here is ‘should’. It’s not what she wants to do, it’s what she thinks she should do. 

What you need and want.

I went to install some drapes last week and the homeowner’s new dining room set had been delivered. Beautiful dark wood table with a lovely lighter wood top, chairs to match.  She told me she was going to have to find chair pads but didn’t know what to look for. 

I asked her why she thought she needed chair pads. (This is a grandchildren friendly home and I know chair pads can be crumb magnets… ) She said she didn’t know, just thought she should have them.  I pointed out that chair pads slip around, the ties rarely stay secure, she would be covering up the beautiful wood and the chairs are comfortable without chair pads.

As she was thinking about all of this I told her she had permission NOT to put on chair pads.  I saw a light go on for her. 

Do I really have to say this?

Just because you have a window does not mean you have to cover it. Just because the dress is on sale doesn’t mean you have to buy it. Just because your neighbor has drapes on every window and each room is totally coordinated doesn’t mean your house has to be that way. 

Your home is individual to you and your needs. What anyone else thinks really doesn’t matter – you are the one who has to live with it. If it is not comfortable for you, it’s wrong. Just that simple.

So please, stop listening to the mavins on TV telling you what colors are  ‘in’ and what is a ‘must’ for this season’s well dressed home. Don’t let the cable guy tell you where your TV should go.

I know you all appreciate your well-meaning relatives and friends but just remember:  it is YOUR home. 

You have permission to do nothing.  

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